Losing Yourself?

Sometimes loving and caring for the wrong man can cause us to lose ourselves. Every woman I know has been there. The process of losing yourself happens slowly over time while fighting to keep a dead end relationship afloat. Once we see the potential in a partner, we feel some sense of obligation to fight to make it work--hanging on to occasional grand gestures and false hope as signs that maybe what we're experiencing is just a rough patch. While exerting all of this effort, we lose focus of what is important to us and what makes us beautiful, bringing on new insecurities that we hadn't felt before or old insecurities we'd thought we'd put to rest. Abandoning your own hobbies and putting your emotional well-being in the hands of another is extremely crippling to our growth. Remember what made you so confident before you met this person. Remember how peaceful life was before even the infatuation began with you and this person. Recall the things you took enjoyment in before meeting this person. Ask yourself and really consider: "Is it more important for me to be with this specific person or is it more important for me to be happy?" Regardless of how down you've been about your relationship; decide today that you're going to do two thing that make you happy. Whatever those two things are, ensure they do not involve the other person. It's all about you baby girl! In the meantime, talk to God. Don't know what to say? Just read this with sincerity and He will hear your call:

God,

Thank you for giving me a heart that is open to giving and receiving love. Thank you for making me exactly the way I am and thank you for loving me. God give me a spirit of discernment and the wisdom to recognize and flee from anything that leads me further from you. Please help me to remember who I am and who you are. Please help me to shift my focus to the things in life that are truly important and to make wise decisions. Please help me to not become bitter and consult you for all things. In your name I pray, Amen.